While February has brought a winter storm, it has also brought a relationship storm. Which one has been more difficult to weather?
I will begin with the winter storm. We actually had two, but the second storm was by far, the worst. It carried with it 20 mph winds creating 3-4 foot drifts in some spots. We live off the main road about a 1/2 mile. In the midst of the storm our road was plowed 4x between 10a.m. and 6p.m. The road commissioner, our son twice, and a neighbor all tried their best to clear the road. My husband started home around 8p.m. He made it to our road around 9:30 p.m. and got stuck in snow that had drifted 3 foot deep. Our son was able to pick him up in the Ranger and they pulled him out with the tractor.
During this storm, the animals had to be fed, watered, and checked on. Watering was difficult as they had to pull the frozen buckets or troughs and refill with warm water twice a day. It was bitter cold, but our kids chipped in and worked hard. I have not left the area in 2 weeks. School has been closed due to poor road conditions so it is safer to stay at home.
The winter storm has been difficult for my family, but not as difficult as the relationship storm. Let me just say that raising boys is not for the faint of heart. They will eventually break your heart. Don’t get me wrong. My boys are becoming excellent, hardworking young men. They are strong and strong willed.
However, this month, I informed our oldest that if he was not going to return to college that it was time for him to move out. We gave him until the end of this summer. He will be fine. He will do well for himself. However, I am so overcome with grief that he is not pursuing his best. This young man is brilliant and yet he is not pursuing his best because he struggles with conforming to our current education system. This young man has been studying the National Audubon Society books since he was 8. He pulls out those books when he cannot identify a particular bird or reptile or tree. He loves learning. He listens to podcasts about fungi that lasts for 2 hours. However, he has no desire to take classes that have nothing to do with the topic he is interested in.
This month I have also struggled with my middle child that wants to constantly argue when I tell him no. What? When did we ever give the impression that this was acceptable? Honestly, my youngest is right behind him. She is very witty and will act like she is just joking to stay out of trouble, but I am wise to her tactics.
Proverbs 22:6 says “Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” It does not say that the training part is easy. It does not say that if they don’t obey the first time, just give up. It just says to do it. So we are doing it and praying that our consistency will pay off. Ephesians 6:1 says “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.” Our children know this verse, however, they struggle with it. They are human. We fail to obey our Father in Heaven, too. So, what does Jesus do? He gives us grace. Hebrews 4:16 says “Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.